Self-help books are big business. Anyone can write one and many are not worth the money you pay or the time spent reading them. John Santrock et al., authors of The Authoritative Guide to Self-Help Books, surveyed professionals in the field to find out which books they recommend to their clients. Here are the books most often mentioned as recommended.


The Courage to Heal : A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by
      Ellen Bass(Preface), Laura Davis (Preface) (Paperback - July 1994)

The Courage to Heal Workbook : For Women and Men Survivors of Child
      Sexual Abuse by Laura Davis (Paperback - February 1990)

Dibs in Search of Self
                     by Virginia M. Axline, Leonard Carmichael

Victims No Longer : Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse
     by Mike Lew, Ellen Bass; Paperback

Battered Woman
     by Lenore E. Walker. Paperback (April 1980)


The Dance of Anger : A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate
     by Harriet Lerner. Paperback (1997)

Anger : The Misunderstood Emotion
                     by Carol Tavris

The Anger Workbook
      by Lorrainne Bilodeau. Paperback (August 1992)

How to Control Your Anger Before It Controls You
     by Raymond Chip, Phd Tafrate, Albert, Phd Ellis. Paperback (October 1998)


Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne Ph.D. (Paperback - 1995)

Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic
     by David H. Barlow

Stop Obsessing! How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions
     by Edna B. Foa, Reid Wilson, Eda B. Foa, David H. Barlow


Your Perfect Right : A Guide to Assertive Living
      by Robert E. Alberti, Michael L. Emmons. Paperback (October 1995)

The Assertive Woman
      by Stanlee Phelps, Nancy Austin. Paperback (June 1997)

Career Development

What Color is Your Parachute by Richard Nelson Bolles, Dick Bolles
      (Preface) (Paperback )

What Color Is Your Parachute Workbook : How to Create a Picture of Your
      Ideal Job or Next Career by Richard Nelson Bolles (Paperback - December 1998)

Child Development and Parenting

Infants and Mothers : Differences in Development by T. Berry Brazelton
      (Paperback - May 1994)

What Every Baby Knows
     by T. Berry Brazelton. Hardcover (September 1987)

Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care
      by Benjamin Spock, et al. Mass Market Paperback (June 1998)

The New First Three Years of Life by Burton L. White (Paperback - August 1995)

Children : The Challenge
      by Rudopf Dreikurs, et al. Paperback (December 1991)


You Just Don't Understand
     by Deborah Tannen. Paperback (June 1991)

How to Communicate Successfully
      by Andrew Wright. Paperback (October 1986)

Shyness : A Bold New Approach : Managing Your Shyness at Work, Making
      Small Talk, Navigating Social Situations, Parenting a Shy Child by Bernardo J.
      Carducci Ph.D., Bernardo J. Carducci (Paperback - April 2000)

Intimate Connections
     by David D., M.D. Burns. Mass Market Paperback (October 1986)

Death and Grieving

How to Survive the Loss of a Love
      by Melba Colgrove, et al. Paperback (November 1993)

How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies
     by Therese, A., Ph.D. Rando. Paperback (August 1991)


How It Feels When Parents Divorce
     by Jill Krementz. Paperback (March 1988)

Growing Up With Divorce : Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later
     Emotional Problems by Neil Kalter. Paperback (April 1991)

The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce, With an Introduction for Parents -- Richard A.
     Gardner; Paperback, 1985. (10 and older)

Dinosaurs Divorce : A Guide for Changing Families by Marc Tolon Brown, Laurence
      Krasny Brown (Paperback - October 1988) (under 10)

Love and Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy : A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in
      Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner (Paperback - April 1990)

Love Is Never Enough : How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings,
     Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy
                     by Aaron T., M.D. Beck, 1989.

Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix
     (Paperback - February 1990)

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
     by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver. Hardcover (April 1999)

Mood Control

Feeling Good : The New Mood Therapy by David D., Md. Burns, Aaron T. Beck
      (Preface) ( Paperback - October 1999)

The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns (Paperback - May 1999)

Mind Over Mood: A Cognitive Therapy Treatment for Clients
     by Dennis Greenberger, Christine A. Padesky. Paperback (January 15, 1995)


7 Habits of Highly Effective People
      by Stephen R. Covey

Learned Optimism
     by Martin E. P. Seligman(Introduction). Paperback (March 1998)

What You Can Change... and What You Can't : The Complete Guide to
      Successful Self-Improvement : Learning to Accept Who You Are
      by Martin P. Seligman, Martin E. P. Seligman. Paperback (February 1995)


For Each Other : Sharing Sexual Intimacy
      by Lonnie Garfield Barbach. Paperback (September 16, 1983)

Illustrated Manual of Sex Therapy
     by Helen Singer Kaplan, David Passalacqua (Illustrator). Paperback (September


The Road Less Traveled : A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and
      Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck(Afterword) (Paperback - January 1998)

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl, Gordon W. Allport (Preface) (Mass
      Market Paperback - January 1998)

Flow : The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
      (Paperback - March 1991)

Stress Management

Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook by Martha Davis, et al (Paperback -
      August 1998)

The Stress and Relaxation Handbook : A Practical Guide to Self-Help
     Techniques by Jane Madders.

The Relaxation Response by M.D. Herbert Benson, Miriam Z. Klipper (Contributor)
      (Paperback - February 2000)